The Year That Changed My Life
I couldn’t let the year end without chatting with you about what made this year different for me. Cause, in all honesty, this year was life-changing. No, I’m not even being dramatic. I feel that this year was a life-altering year because something has shifted in my mindset. And that is way more important than anything else if you ask me. I’m in a different place than I’ve ever been. Such a good place.
This was not always true for me. In fact, two years ago on New Year’s Eve, I had a bit of breakdown. I realized that motherhood had taken over and I was no longer someone who took care of themselves. I was frustrated and I didn’t want to make goals for myself because I didn’t think I would be able to keep them with the lack of time I took for myself. That’s why it’s such a big deal that this year was so different. I’m proof of that.
Your girl really loves a good list. I really do. Especially if that list is a goal setting one. I also am totally here for setting yourself up for success. So much so that last year I sat down on Dec 31st, 2018 and wrote down where I wanted to be and what I wanted to accomplish in 2018. I talk a bit more about this in my podcast interview with Kate K. McCarthy which you can find here.
And for the first time, almost everything I wrote down became a reality.
I know! Now that is something to celebrate. Am I right?
It’s also something to reflect on. What made this year so different? What made me stick to my goals in a way that didn’t in years past?
1. Making my health a priority. My goal was to figure out why I was getting migraines and had so many tummy troubles. This has been a doozy this year. But by making my health a priority, it forced me to really listen to my body and I have a lot of pride in taking care of it. I also learned that if I can do hard things that I’ve never done before (like lifting heavy weights, committing to healthy food and exercise because it felt good) maybe I could do other things in life that were more challenging. It was all connected. This was something I didn’t expect.
*** I also want to note, that I consistently had to remind myself WHY I was exercising and eating a gluten, dairy, and sugar free diet for the majority of this year. It was not to lose weight. I would have to sometimes check in to remind myself that wasn’t the goal. We are conditioned to want to look a certain way and I was more concerned this year with how I was feeling. I genuinely enjoy working out and eating healthy because I feel better mentally and physically. So, that to me is more important than anything a scale would ever say. Just saying...
2. I stopped letting myself make excuses. I know that sounds like a bumper sticker. But there is only so much I can control. And my own mindset is one that I wanted to TRY and have control over. When you have young children who you are home with, it can be a challenge to make time for yourself. I had to really be clear about what I was doing with that time in order to make my goals a reality. I just had to stop saying “I don’t have time.” It’s a work in progress, but has been a game changer.
3. Clarity. I had a lot of clarity this year in what I was trying to accomplish. Writing my book The Confident Closet and getting it into the world meant I had to create the time and space to do so. I had to ask for help. I had to trust myself and the process over and over again. Without clarity I sort of just don’t get things done. I am working but not with intention and really that is my downfall. It’s something that is crucial for me, and now that I know that I consistently check in to make sure I’m clear.
4. I gave myself grace. No beating myself up when things didn’t go as planned. That grace made it easier to get back up and keep going. This is something I have not always been good at. I am a very optimistic person but I am not always as kind to myself as I should be. Allowing myself to make mistakes and learn from them takes a lot of pressure off.
As I head into this year with all of this knowledge and proof in realizing my dreams, I feel a new sense of momentum. I have a ton of new goals for my life and business and so many ways I want to continue to grow this year. As many times as I succeeded I also learned the places I still need to work on. That’s personal growth if I’ve ever seen it. But I know it’s possible for me to set my mind on a goal and achieve it and that is invaluable.
This year I know I want to focus on continuing to grow and build my business in a sustainable way. I struggle with burnout and it’s a goal of mine to find a way to work on my goals without over extending myself. I’m so excited to share more about what that means for you soon. So many exciting ways to work together this year and it really just lights my heart on fire to think about!
I also am still on a journey to the healthiest version of myself and I know this goal may take years. I’m much closer and making smarter choices daily. Some weeks are better than others but I’m learning a lot about what my body agrees with and what it doesn’t.
I also am intentionally going to write down goals as a mother, friend, and a wife. All of these goals and plans would have overwhelmed me two years ago. But after the year I’ve had, these goals feel like I need to dream even bigger. And if I can do it, so can you. Let’s do this 2019!